To paraphrase the optimal family situations for more “flow-inclined” children (p.89 &
93, Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihaly), it is a family that facilitates and encourages the following elements.
1) Clarity of goals
2) Providing feedback
3) Feeling of control
4) Concentration and focus
5) Intrinsic motivation
6) Challenges
However, to conclude, Milhay added “Some people are born with a more focused and flexible neurological endowment, or are fortunate to have had parents who promoted unselfconscious individuality. But it is an ability open to cultivation, a skill one can perfect through training and discipline.” In short, having good upbringing is helpful but one can also make up for it later in life.