Feedback is a double-edged sword in the sense that it must be utilized with caution; otherwise it may be backfired with undesirable results.
A few initial thoughts on this subject:
• Try to find someone as objective as possible when you seek feedback.
• Differentiate if the person is giving you “expert” feedback (meaning the person is knowledgeable in that area) or as a friend. Understand the perspective of the person.
• Avoid “selective” listening but at the same time, don’t take all feedback at face value. Analyze it when you are objective and calm.
• It is not a debate. It is alright to clarify the feedback received but leave it as that. “Sleep” on it and you don’t have to agree or disagree on the spot.