From the book ‘The Resilience Factor’ by Karen Reivich & Andrew Shatte (p.41-43)
“Casual analysis is a term we use to refer to people’s ability to accurately identify the causes of their problems” “… the most resilient people are those who have cognitive flexibility and can identify all the significant causes of adversities they face, without being trapped in any specific explanatory style. They are realists in that they do not ignore the factors that are permanent and pervasive. They also don’t reflexively blame others for their mistakes in order to preserve their self-esteem or absolve themselves of guilt. Nor do they waste their valuable reserves of resilience ruminating about events or circumstances outside their control. They channel their problem-solving resources into the factors that they can control, and, through incremental change, they begin to overcome, steer through, and reach out.”
Critical and objective thinking is important to identify the causes of problems. In addition, discussing with others (friends and family or a life coach) may help.