Emotional regulation is the first resilience factor from the book ‘The Resilience Factor’ by Karen Reivich & Andrew Shatte.
“Emotion Regulation is the ability of stay calm under pressure. Resilient people use a well-developed set of skills that help them to control their emotions, attention, and behavior. Self-regulation is important for forming intimate relationships, succeeding at work, and maintaining physical health. People who have difficulty regulating their emotions often emotionally exhaust their partners at home and are difficult to work with. Research shows that people who lack the ability to regulate their emotions have a hard time building and maintaining friendships. There are probably many reasons why this is so, the most basic of which is that negativity is a turnoff. The more you associate with the angry, sullen, and anxious, the more angry, sullen, and anxious you become.”
There is a time for everything. The key is have control over your own emotions, in particular the negative ones and avoid spilling them over to others while keeping the positive energy going strong!