The second model that I would like to share on the topic of adapting to changes is the 4-step approach developed by Susan David.
Step 1: Recognize your patterns – The first step in developing emotional agility is to notice when you have been hooked by your thoughts and feelings.
Step 2: Label your thoughts and emotions – When you are hooked emotionally, the attention you give your thoughts and feelings crowds your mind; there is no room to examine them. One strategy that may help you consider your situation more objectively is the simple act of labeling your emotions (e.g. happiness, anger, bitterness..)
Step 3: Accept your feelings and emotions – The opposite of control is acceptance – not acting on every thought or resigning yourself to negativity but responding to your ideas and emotions with an open attitude, paying attention to them and letting yourself experience them. Avoid making any judgments on them and beat yourself up emotionally.
Step 4: Act ion your values – When you unhook yourself psychologically from your difficult thoughts and emotions, you can then expand your choices and consider alternatives. Take time to reflect and ponder on how your emotions and feelings linked to your values (core beliefs). You can decide to act in a way that aligns with your values. Essentially that would allow you to act differently in the future.