This advice by Mihaly Csikszentmihaly on how to transform a seemingly hopeless situation into a new flow activity came in handy as I was experiencing some “down moment” lately. There are three main steps:
1) Unselfconcious self-assurance (p.203-4)
“This attitude occurs when a person no longer sees himself in opposition to the environment, as an individual who insists that his goals, his intentions take precedence over everything else. Instead, he feels a part of whatever goes on around him, and tires to do his best within the system in which he must operate.”
2) Focusing attention on the world (p.204-5)
“They are not expending all their energy trying to satisfy what they believe to be their needs, or worrying about socially conditioned desires. Instead their attention is alert, constantly processing information from their surroundings. The focus is still set by the person’s goal, but it is open enough to notice and adapt to external events even if they are not directly relevant to what he wants to accomplish”
3) The discovery of new solutions (p.207)
“There are basically two ways to cope with a situation that creates psychic entropy. One is to focus attention on the obstacles to achieving one’s goals and then to move them out of the way, thereby restoring harmony in consciousness. This is the direct approach. The other is to focus on the entire situation, including oneself, to discover whether alternative goals may not be more appropriate, and thus different solutions possible.”

Two good insights from the chapter “Enjoying Solitude and Other People” from the book Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihaly.
1) We as human beings are made to live in community and have relationships with others such as family, friends and marriage. Our lives can be enriched through these relationships.
2) We also need to know how to handle and benefit from solitude. “Learning to use time alone, instead of escaping from it, is especially important in our early years. Teenagers who can’t bear solitude disqualify themselves from later carrying out adult tasks that require serious mental preparation” (p.171)

Here are the answers:
1) “Lose your bottle” – If someone loses their bottle, they lose the courage to do something.
2) “Sound as a pound” – If something is as sound as a pound, it is very good or reliable.
3) “Talking the hind legs off a donkey” – Talk too much
4) “Throw a cat among the pigeons” – This metaphor paints a pretty clear picture; it means to say or do something that will cause a chaotic disturbance among a group.
5) “Back to Blighty” – Back to Britain
6) “As snug as a bug (in a rug)” – Very cosy
7) “Cat’s pyjamas” – A highly sought-after and fancy example of something, usually referring to inanimate objects.
8) “Donkey’s years” – Long time

It is time for the second round of British expressions.

1) “Lose your bottle”
2) “Sound as a pound”
3) “Talking the hind legs off a donkey”
4) “Throw a cat among the pigeons”
5) “Back to Blighty”
6) “As snug as a bug (in a rug)”
7) “Cat’s pyjamas”
8) “Donkey’s years”

Answers will arrive tomorrow :>

Instead of quoting from the book Flow, I have decided to use a different source on the topic of work.
“[Work] should be looked upon, not as a necessary drudgery to be undergone for the purpose of making money, but as a way of life in which the nature of man should find its proper exercise and delight and so fulfil itself to the glory of God. That it should, in fact, be thought of as a creative activity undertaken for the love of the work itself; and that man, made in God’s image, should make things, as God makes them, for the sake of doing well that is well worth doing.” — Dorothy Sayers, Creed or Chaos p.89

The best description is based on Plato’s quote in Philebus: “The young man who has drunk for the first time from that spring is as happy as if he had found a treasure of wisdom; he is positively enraptured. He will pick up any discourse, draw all its ideas together to make them into one, then take them apart and pull them to pieces, He will puzzle first himself, then also others, badger whoever comes hear him, young and old, sparing not even his parents, nor anyone who is willing to listen…”

Today marks the beginning of the second half of my 12-month period since my book publication in Sep-14.
I thought it may be a good time to take stock.
a) Copies of book sold = 257 (12-month target of 1,000 with 6 more months to go. It is going to be a tough one.)
b) Countries where copies sold = 6 (U.K., U.S., Canada, France, Germany & China)
c) Amazon reviews received (US & UK sites) = 12
d) Blogs published = 162 (including this very one)
e) Twitter followers = 1,313 with 1,986 tweets (including retweets)

The second half will be accompanied by the arrival of spring and summer.
Cheer up and keep it up!

Today I went to a friend’s 30’s birthday lunch party. Not to “steal her thunder” (which I admit I do have a tendency of doing that to other people :>), I kept the promotion of my book to the very bare minimum. I only gave an “elevator” pitch of my book to everyone at the lunch table when her boyfriend publicly praised my book. To top it off, another friend who happened to sit next to me at the lunch table told me with a straight face that she found my book useful. She is someone that only offers compliments when she really means it. For that, I was more than pleased.

The sale of my book is important, but honest feedback and affirmation mean the world to me.

On the subject of how our body experiences flow, Mihaly Csikszentmihaly suggested (p.97, Flow):
“Even the simplest physical act becomes enjoyable when it is transformed so as to produce flow. The essentials steps in this process are:
(a) to set an overall goal, and as many subgoals as are realistically feasible;
(b) to find ways to measuring progress in terms of goals chosen;
(c) to keep concentrating on what one is doing, and to keep making finer and finer distinctions in the challenges involved in the activity;
(d) to develop the skills necessary to interact with the opportunities available;
(e) to keep raising the stakes if the activity becomes boring.”

To paraphrase the optimal family situations for more “flow-inclined” children (p.89 & 93, Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihaly), it is a family that facilitates and encourages the following elements.
1) Clarity of goals
2) Providing feedback
3) Feeling of control
4) Concentration and focus
5) Intrinsic motivation
6) Challenges
However, to conclude, Milhay added “Some people are born with a more focused and flexible neurological endowment, or are fortunate to have had parents who promoted unselfconscious individuality. But it is an ability open to cultivation, a skill one can perfect through training and discipline.” In short, having good upbringing is helpful but one can also make up for it later in life.