I had a coffee with a friend of mine today and the subject of favoritism was brought up.
The question is how to deal with favoritism when you were not the recipient in particular it was a “favor” you were hoping for.
The key points are:
#1) Be happy (genuinely) for the person who has received the favor. He or she probably needs it as much as you do.
#2) Be non-judgmental about the “favor-granter” as he/she probably has a reason for it. Please don’t second guess the reason.
#3) Stay calm and don’t over-think about the chance of your own situation.
#4) Talk to a trusted friend or family about it. Sometimes it helps to verbalize how you feel.
#5) Avoid being bitter about it. Reflect on the dynamics of the system (meaning the team/organization/group/family) in particular how favour is granted.
#6) Reflect on other ways that you can gain that “favor” or achieve the same outcome. There are usually more than one way to Rome as they say.
#7) Don’t lose hope/faith. Your time will come soon.